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Sexual Disorientation

Sexual Disorientation is a weekly podcast featuring clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology Dr. Ramani Durvasula, and her co-host Silvia Saige, an adult film star and standup comedian. Each episode, Dr. Ramani and Silvia tackle listener questions and topics from the news about sex, love, relationships, narcissism and every taboo topic in between.
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Now displaying: July, 2018
Jul 30, 2018

Silvia shares a very personal story. Dr Ramani helps unpack it, and looks at how survivors, their loved ones, and even perpetrators can best process childhood trauma.

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NOTE TO LISTENERS: No matter the severity or the statute of limitations, if you believe a minor has been assaulted, please contact your local DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES. Google "Social Services," "DCFS" or "Department Child and Family Services," or get in touch with a local doctor, teacher or police officer, all of whom are legally required to file such a report.

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Tragic circumstances forced Silvia to reveal a childhood secret to her mother, and neither is sure how to handle it. Ramani talks about the complicated guilt parents feel when a child suffers, and also whether the survivor is obligated to speak up.

Dr Ramani and Silvia give wide-ranging advice about the importance of sharing traumatic experiences, what parents can do to make kids feel safe in a worst-case scenario, and how parents can watch for warning signs that their child is being abused OR is becoming an ABUSER.

It's a heavy topic but well worth your time.

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Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology.

Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.

Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com

Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback!

Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!

Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Jul 23, 2018

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige explore "the chase," and the growing narrative that men wooing women are damned if they do and damned if they don't.

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HAVE YOU EVER HAD AN EXPERIENCE WITH A SUITOR WHO WOULD NOT GIVE UP? Someone who felt wronged when you turned them down? Someone who pushed "the chase" too far? Or maybe it turned out they were actually "the one"? We want to discuss your story. Write us, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, at: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com

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In a wide-ranging discussion, Ramani finds parallels between the "alpha" men at the top of society and the self-professed "beta" men on the bottom. Might they be on the same side of a spectrum? If so, what's on the other side?

Silvia has first-hand experience with how incels attack, and how "giving someone a shot" because you're trying to be nice can backfire.

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Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology.

Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.

 

Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback!

Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!

Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Jul 16, 2018

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige discuss the recent boom in celebrity shotgun engagements. Then, they unpack the public reaction to a Bachelorette contestant's "virginity outing."

Ramani finds hope in the way fans are processing these sprints to the altar. She highlights the inherent gap between a celebrity marriage and a normal marriage. Silvia talks about the small town culture of using engagement to "claim" a person, which reflects backward ideas about marriage that persist across cultures.

Then, should "what's wrong with this guy?" really be the question when an attractive, well-balanced man in his mid-20s is revealed as a virgin?

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If virginity has you vexed, or you're dying to hear funny stories that remind you of your own awkward first time, check out the Bail Bonds Media podcast V-CARDED. Hosted by the lovely Erin Darling, every episode is a hilarious deep dive interview about when, why and how the guest "swiped their V-Card."

Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology.

Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.

Write us with your questions: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com

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Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback!

Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!

Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Jul 9, 2018

Silvia Saige will soon be the first woman featured on Men.com, a gay male porn site. She and Dr. Ramani brace for a backlash. Then, they offer do's and don'ts for summer romance!

Silvia explains how bi scenes with gay performers are still taboo in the porn business, raising bigger questions about the line between "sexual identity" and "who you have sex with." They consider the political undertones of straight sexuality encroaching on a safe space for gay men, even as Dr. Ramani struggles with the de-legitimization of bisexual identity across all of culture.

Then, Ramani explains why summer is traditionally the "dry season" for relationship therapists, but that doesn't mean everyone avoids relationship drama. We break down how to have a successful fling

Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology.

Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.

Write us with your questions: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com

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Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback!

Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!

Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

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